Mid-life crisis is real. Men in their middle age go thru a time of revaluating their accomplishments, their purposes, etc. It's also when many marriages end up in divorce. It doesn't have to be this way. When you see your husband going thru depression or struggling with his identity- Here is a few things you can do as a wife:
1. Pray for him daily. Ask God to give him the mind of Christ. Pray that his mind is renewed daily by the word of God. That the voice he hears is God's and not the lies of the enemy. Pray against depression, confusion, fear, and stress.
2. Remind him of his successes. If he seems like he struggles with feeling like a failure remind him of how great he is as a husband, father, lover, etc. Men thrive on praise even if they won't admit it.
3. Make sure his stress levels are lowered. Men during mid-life get tempted with the lie that they should just start over and the stresses and fears will somehow fade away. That's why you see men buying new cars, going to the gym all of a sudden, dating younger women...They think a new slate will bring a better life. Alleviate any un-necessary household stresses. Home should be peaceful, full of love and be a safe haven. Nobody desires to come home to a house of chaos, screaming, contempt, etc. Cut back on overspending, remove clutter and organize if your there's areas in the home that are messy.
4. Show genuine appreciation of what he does to provide and lead his family. A man who feels celebrated and feels like his efforts are producing good results will generally not desire to leave. He feels like his efforts matter. This is so important to a man.
5. Make sure that your relationship is continually maintaining intimacy. Sex in marriage keeps a couple bonded emotionally. Never let the enemy walk in by having a spouse sleeping on the couch or other room. Lack of intimacy is a door open for temptation of affairs. Never assume that your marriage is risk free from affairs. Assuming is being naïve. Be wise and keep the marriage bed alive.
6. Make goals and plans dreams together as husband and wife. People who have no vision....Perish. When a couple dreams and goes on adventures together- they always have something to talk about. Boredom is a killer in marriage. Boredom causes restlessness. Men in mid-life get restless and bored...They lack vision and focus. A man who has a plan and a goal has somewhere to go...Keep your marriage moving forward always.
7. As a wife...Keep yourself vibrant, healthy, growing spiritually and intellectually. Always strive to keep yourself looking your best. Women who let themselves go and don't try to maintain themselves get stuck in frump girl mode. A pretty woman is a happy woman. If you need to go to the gym and lose a few pounds...do it. You deserve to feel good about yourself. And your husband deserves to have his bride looking and feeling amazing. We all go through frump girl stages, but to stay in it and not care anymore is damaging to you and your marriage. Maybe it's time for some new underwear and clothes. Maybe a fresh new hair cut or color. Get a pair of high heels and a pedicure. A new workout routine to keep you feeling energetic. A confident woman is a beautiful woman. Men are visual creatures...You should always try to be your best for yourself and your man.
Written by Jenny Williams, Ruby Wives Copyright 2014
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