Best Friends In Marriage

The Bible repeatedly says of marriage that "a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife." The message is clear; our spouse should be our best friend. If they are not, we need to get this right.

 

What are some qualities of a best friend?

* A desire to be together. This is why I believe a weekly date is so key to staying in love with your mate.

* Great communication. Best friends can talk about anything.

* Loyalty. Best friends are loyal. They keep confidences.

* Willingness to forgive. They accept one another and are so committed to the friendship that they choose to forgive and work through it, even when the other friend lets them down.

 

Is your spouse your best friend? If so, thank God for a marriage like He has in mind. If not, ask God to forgive you and to help you forgive your spouse, and make a commitment with your spouse to become best friends.

A special thank you to RFTH Ministries

 

In His love

Leslene

CLEAVE

When God's Word says of marriage, "A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife," the word cleave means to "join together," "to glue," or "to cement." This implies that there will always be pressures on the marriage to pull apart.

Pressures like:

* Busyness that leaves little quality time.

* Work can become all-consuming.

* Demands of children. Children are a blessing and we feel so responsible, but our spouse is to come first.

* Money, how it's earned, saved, consumed, or wasted. It can become an idol and put before our spouse.

* Health problems.

This is the reason wedding vows include "in sickness and in health. "Infidelity." This is the big one. This one can be devastating.

Yet when a husband and wife commit to cleave, no matter what, and look to God for strength and help, a marriage can withstand any pressure that seeks to pull it apart.

A special thank you to RFTH Ministries

 

In His love

Leslene

Dear Stay-at-Home Mom,

You are a gift of God to your husband and your kids.

But you don’t always feel that way, do you?

There’s a low-level feeling of guilt that creeps into your heart from time to time. Sometimes it bubbles over into tears, usually on lonely, difficult days.

You scan blogs and read books about being a good mom. You find some helpful tidbits here and there, often from women who are grandmothers now. Women you can learn from but who seem to have forgotten the struggle. They seem to have it all together.In your heart, you want to be the kind of mom who trains up kids to make a difference for the kingdom. You know it’s an honor to be entrusted with these kids. You know you’ve only got one shot. You want to be the mom who teaches them the Bible, models how to pray, and trains them up in the fear of the Lord.

But most of the time you feel like you’re barely holding it all together.

Your house cleaning can’t keep up with your kids’ mess-making.

The kids embarrass you by acting up right when your guests arrive.

Your husband doesn’t get just how worn out you are by the end of the day.

You come to the end of your patience. You lose your temper. Then you feel worse.

The last thing you consider yourself to be is a “good mom.” And you think to yourself, It’ll be a miracle if my kids turn out okay.

And – surprisingly – that’s right where God wants to meet you. The place where you admit your powerlessness and your need for Him.

It’s only by God’s grace that any kid grows up to be a force for the kingdom.

You see, there are no perfect kids and no perfect mothers. No matter what you read in blogs, see in magazines, and learn in books. There are sinful kids and sinful moms and dads.

And the only thing greater than both is the grace of God. The God who says “there is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” The God who loves to forgive, to transform, and empower.

God loves you – not because you are a good mother but just because you are His precious child.

God loves you – not because you’ve mastered all the skills of parenting but because He has.

It’s divine grace that will transform your parenting – not guilt.

It’s grace that will keep you going and serving and scrubbing when you’re exhausted and worn out.

It’s grace that will conquer your feelings of inadequacy and remind you of God’s love for you in Christ.

It’s grace that goes for the heart of your kids, not just their behavior.

God has demonstrated the fullness of His love for you through the cross of His Son, even while you were still a sinner.

He has promised you His presence.

He has spoken His approval over you in Christ.

He is the perfect Father who delights in you as a daughter.

Find in Him your Treasure and Joy. Be to others what He is to you.

So walk in freedom. Let Him hold you together when everything seems to be falling apart.

Bask in His unfailing love for you. And rest in His promise of power.

Written by:
The Gospel Coalition Blog

Your job description....

This simply means finding some time during the day to meet with the Lord. It doesn’t have to be before all the kids are awake. It doesn’t have to be in the pre-dawn stillness. Your job is to love God. How you make that happen can look a million different ways and it all depends on you.

Your second job is to love and serve your husband. Husbands are to do the same for their wives, but that’s for a different post. If your husband really likes homemade bread, maybe you could make it for him. But don’t make homemade bread simply because you see other moms posting pictures of their homemade bread on Facebook.

Your calling as mom is to love your kids and teach them to follow the Lord. They don’t need to know Latin by age six. If they do, more power to you. But that’s a bonus, not part of the job description. Your job is simply to love your kids with all your exhausted heart, and to teach them to love Jesus. That’s a high calling. Don’t go throwing in other, extraneous things to make your life more difficult. If you want to teach your kids to sew, great. But don’t be crushed by guilt if your kids aren't making stylish blazers by the age of 10.

Moms, Jesus want you to rest in him. He wants you to chill out. His yoke is easy and his burden is light. Don’t compare yourself to other moms. Don’t try to be something God hasn’t called you to be. If the mom blogs are making you feel guilty, stop reading them. Be faithful to what he has truly called you to do, and know that he is pleased with you. When your kids are resting, don’t feel guilty about watching an episode of “Lost”, or whatever your favorite show may happen to be.

Love God, love your husband, love your kids. Keep it simple and chill out.

If all moms and wives just stick to what they have been called to, there will be less problems in homes and our kids and husbands will listen to the instruction given to them.

ALSO HUSBANDS,....

Your words affect your wife. Bless your wife with your words. She needs your approval. She has given her life to love you and care for you. You will cause terrible problems if you are always finding faults. There are so many women today that live defeated and depressed lives because their husbands refuse to bless them with their mouths. You are speaking death and destruction to your marriage. Instead, tell your wife you love her and appreciate her. O Delbert. My wife knows I love her. I told her when we got married forty years ago. You need to tell her you love her and that she is the best thing that ever happened to you today.

JOKE: An 85-year-old couple, died in a car crash. The wife had kept them in good health by insisting on eating bran muffins and doing exercise. When they got to heaven, St. Peter took them to their mansion which had a beautiful kitchen, Jacuzzi, everything. The man asked how much it would cost. St. Peter said nothing. This was heaven. St. Peter then took them to the back yard where there was a championship-style golf course that changed every week to a different course like on earth. The man asked again how much it would cost. Peter said again that it would cost nothing because this was heaven. Peter then took them to the clubhouse where there was a lavish buffet full of food from all over the earth. The man asked again how much it would cost. Peter said again that it would cost nothing. The man asked where was the low fat and low cholesterol tables. Peter said there were none because in heaven that no one would ever get fat or sick. The man went into a rage, threw his hat down and began jumping on it. He looked at his wife and said, "This is all your fault! If it had not been for your blasted bran muffins and treadmill, I could have been here ten years ago!" That was a joke and we men need to appreciate the fact that she cares.

The opportunity to be the perfect dad

If they get the idea that God is mean and critical and belittling, the child will grow up with a distorted view of God. But if you will display the love and encouragement of God, your child will see God in a healthy way.
So Dads, here you have the perfect opportunity to be the best dad ever to your child.
Some of you have children that are grown and maybe live a distance away. You should pick up the phone and tell them how proud you are of them and how much you love them. You will be amazed how that will add direction to their lives.
‪#‎DontWaste‬ ‪#‎ThisOpportunity‬
God is on YOUR side

CRISPY FISH PUFFS WITH SWEET CHILLI SAUCE

                Spring onions give flavour to these flaked fish and mashed potato puffs served with a tasty sweet chilli sauce.

•             Recipe serves4-6

•             Preparation time25 minutes

•             Cooking time20 minutes

Ingredients

•             3 tbsp Oil, for deep frying

•             1 sachet KNORR Garlic and Herb Potato Bake

•             1 Pinch Robertsons Salt and Pepper to taste

•             2 Eggs

•             30 g Melted margarine

•             5 ml Spring onion, finely chopped

•             180 g Mashed potato

•             250 g Cooked fish

•             200 sweet chilli sauce for dipping

Method

•             Beat eggs thoroughly and flake the fish.

•             Mix all ingredients into the eggs and beat until smooth and fluffy.

•             Heat oil in a deep frying pan.

•             Drop spoonfuls of the mixture into hot oil and fry until golden brown for 2-3 Minutes.

•             Drain on paper towel.

•             Serve with sweet chilli sauce as a dipping sauce.

 

She Rises....Does He?

Ladies, you see the attached picture, that scripture is not for us to be arrogant or to boast about it. 
Men, if you are that one husband who does what that scripture says, PRAISE GOD! I pray God's blessing and supernatural strength on your life, and to continue doing good in your home. 
However, there are men who absolutely does nothing in the home. I don't believe the woman has been created to slave away all day and it shouldn't be expected of her to do so. We do get tired and we do need help. God said, "That's why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person." Genesis 2:24
To me that says, what the woman does, the man can do as well. Again men, this is not to break anybody down, but to build. If you are teachable, good on you. If you're not, I pray you that you will pray for revelation upon the revelation you have received on what your roles are and what the wife's roles are.
Did you know that being ignorant, you can break up your home?
Ignorance is knowing but you choose to ignore. I chose to cut that word out of my life. If I see I can do something for my husband and my kids to make them feel better, I do it and not be ignorant. Husband/ Wives, let's do and give our best to our spouses. We need it. We are not immortal, we need eachother to be complete.
Our Father and our God. Daddy, we need Your help to complete eachother in this life. I pray for wives to be patient. Daddy God, I pray for husbands to see the need in their wives and to remove ignorance from their lives. I pray for understanding and LOVE to be evident in Jesus name. We need you Daddy, we need You to teach us. Amen
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Your choice

This choice will always be yours. Don't ever make the wrong ones, you will end up hurt.

JUST LOVE...

I used to ask myself, why do I still bother to be nice? Why do I still fight for to make things right? Why do I still for love? This is what God said; "Why do you fight? What is your problem, that you fight so much?" You should submit to my word, and just be still. You are not almighty, I Am the Almighty One and in your own strength, you Leslene, will fail miserably. So STOP IT and just do what 1 Corinthians 13 says;

LOVE never gives up.

LOVE cares more for others than for self.

LOVE doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

LOVE doesn’t strut,

Doesn’t have a swelled head,

Doesn’t force itself on others,

Isn’t always “me first,”

Doesn’t fly off the handle,

Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,

Doesn’t revel when others grovel,

Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,

Puts up with anything,

Trusts God always,

Always looks for the best,

Never looks back,

But keeps going to the end."

In His Love

Leslene

CHICKEN, MUSHROOM AND BLUE CHEESE CREPES:

                By using ready-made pancakes this light supper can be whipped together in no time at all.          

•             Recipe serves4-6

•             Preparation time15 minutes

•             Cooking time30 minutes

Ingredients

•             15 ml olive oil

•             4 Chicken breasts, cubed

•             ½ Onion, chopped

•             125 g Mushrooms, roughly chopped

•             1 KNORR Chicken and Mushroom Pan Dry Cook-in-Sauce

•             300 ml Milk

•             10 Ready-made pancakes

•             100 g Blue cheese, crumbled

•             1 KNORR Creamy Cheese Sauce

•             1 Cup Cream

•             100 ml Flaked almonds, toasted

Method

•             Heat oil in a frying pan and brown the chicken and onion.

•             Add the mushrooms.

•             Stir in the KNORR Fresh Ideas Chicken & Mushroom Pan packet contents and milk, simmer for 10 minutes until thickened.

•             Lay pancakes out and spread the chicken filling into the centre.

•             Top with blue cheese.

•             Roll pancakes up and place in a baking dish alongside each other.

•             Prepare the KNORR Creamy Cheese Sauce by heating the cream in a small saucepan and whisking in the packet contents.

•             Bring to the boil and whisk until thickened.

•             Pour over the pancakes and top with a little remaining blue cheese and toasted almonds.

•             Place under the grill for 5 minutes and serve immediately.

 

Woman will fight this...

This verse is probably hated by more women than any other verse in the Bible. The spirit of rebellion will not sit idly by in the heart of a woman when she hears the words, "he shall rule over you." To a woman, these words confront her unbelief and mistrust in her husband; is evidence of not loving her husband. Love believes all things.

A wife's desire for her husband will naturally result in her giving him authority over her, because she believes he has taken full responsibility for her.

The marriage should progress with the husband initiating and the wife completing. Should a change be required or should something need to be initiated, it is the husband's responsibility and duty to start the actions. The wife is to look to her husband and help him bring about solutions.

Does this mean that the husband is to blame when something goes wrong; if the marriage fails? No. Taking responsibility is not concerned with finding fault and placing blame; signs of immaturity. Taking responsibility is focused on improvement and correction – doing it better.

 

The husband should listen to the advise of his wife and take it into consideration in his decisions. Her incites are of value. She will perceive things he may have overlooked. With  יְהוֹוָהYahuah (Yahweh), husband and wife in one accord, the right decisions will result.

 

In His Love

Leslene

The Issue Here Is:

The issue here is how husband and wife treat each other in a Christian marriage. Remember, you will answer to Christ as to how you treat your wife. If you beat her, insult her, demean her, and crush her spirit, Christ will be very unhappy with you. It is not your job to force her to submit. She will answer to Christ for her response to you. if she adhere to what the word says, she will have no choice but so submit.

Here is your role in a Christian marriage.

Husbands

•Love her as you do your own body, and as Christ loves you (Ephesians 5:25, 28). Keep her best interests at heart always.

•Cherish and nourish her, and help her to reach the full potential Christ has for her (Ephesians 5:29). This also means to support, take care of, and protect her. Treat her as special and important – the greatest gift you will ever have.

•Live with her tenderly, gently, and faithfully. Avoid grudges and bitterness (Colossians 3:19). Give her great honor and understanding (1 Peter 3:7).

•You are the head of the home, but if you are wise, you will listen very carefully to the wisdom God has given your wife. A good general always listens to his advisors. Remember, you and your wife are two sides of one union (1 Corinthians 11:11, 12). Be careful how you exercise authority. Just as a worker will quit a domineering boss, a wife will quit a domineering husband.

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In His Love

Leslene

 

 

 

How do you see marriage?

Marriage is a covenant; not a partnership or a contract. Partnerships and contracts are agreements of "consideration given for consideration received."  A covenant is not made primarily to gain value nor to exchange one thing for another. It is not maintained by both parties meeting their obligations; it is the giving one's self regardless of the return value. A covenant is forever or until it can no longer be done, "until death do us part." This covenant establishes a "home." A marriage covenant establishes a preference in relationship greater than parent and child. A marriage covenant creates a new reality that the whole of creation accepts, including the Creator.

 

This is why a divorce is more than breaking a contract. A divorce rips the very fabric of the soul when the marriage covenant is broken. A broken vow, an oath that is breached, or a pledge not fulfilled is an internal dilemma reaching deep into the person that no soothing balm can reach.  A broken contract can be solved by paying for the damages, but the damage of a broken covenant continues long after.

 

In His Love

Leslene

She needs to be looked after.

This is a small portion of my testimony and the lessons I had to learn through my husbands actions and choices.
I remember the times earlier in our marriage when I would sit up nights, waiting for my husband to come.
There were some of these night that I wouldn't pray for him, because I was so emotionally scared and so tired. I would beg God to make it stop. I would talk to God about my husband, and I would refuse to ask God to help to see him through the eyes of God(the way God sees him).
When he would come home, I was so quiet and just silently thanked God for bringing him home safe.
Some of you reading this might even be saying; "this woman was crazy. I would never wait up for him like that."
Well, it might seem crazy, today I am not sorry I did. When I look at my husband, I give God all the glory for not giving up on me when I felt like giving up on my husband. I could give up on him. What would happen to him if I did. Non of the friends he had would be there for him.
They would never give him a place to stay, not even his family would take him. I married him for better or worse, till death do us part. Today, we are more in love than ever before.
Today, I know God has called me to encourage you who feel there's no hope for your marriage.
Look at me, read my story, see me Leslene as victorius and the wife who trusted(still do) God for healing in her marriage.
"Nothing is impossible with God." - Luke 1:37
I don't care what people say about me or my husband. God delivered us and He can do the same for you. When you feel wanted and looked after, take it to the Lord in prayer.
In His Love
Leslene
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