Wednesday, 28 May 2014

Best Friends In Marriage

The Bible repeatedly says of marriage that "a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife." The message is clear; our spouse should be our best friend. If they are not, we need to get this right.

 

What are some qualities of a best friend?

* A desire to be together. This is why I believe a weekly date is so key to staying in love with your mate.

* Great communication. Best friends can talk about anything.

* Loyalty. Best friends are loyal. They keep confidences.

* Willingness to forgive. They accept one another and are so committed to the friendship that they choose to forgive and work through it, even when the other friend lets them down.

 

Is your spouse your best friend? If so, thank God for a marriage like He has in mind. If not, ask God to forgive you and to help you forgive your spouse, and make a commitment with your spouse to become best friends.

A special thank you to RFTH Ministries

 

In His love

Leslene

CLEAVE

When God's Word says of marriage, "A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife," the word cleave means to "join together," "to glue," or "to cement." This implies that there will always be pressures on the marriage to pull apart.

Pressures like:

* Busyness that leaves little quality time.

* Work can become all-consuming.

* Demands of children. Children are a blessing and we feel so responsible, but our spouse is to come first.

* Money, how it's earned, saved, consumed, or wasted. It can become an idol and put before our spouse.

* Health problems.

This is the reason wedding vows include "in sickness and in health. "Infidelity." This is the big one. This one can be devastating.

Yet when a husband and wife commit to cleave, no matter what, and look to God for strength and help, a marriage can withstand any pressure that seeks to pull it apart.

A special thank you to RFTH Ministries

 

In His love

Leslene

Tuesday, 27 May 2014

Dear Stay-at-Home Mom,

You are a gift of God to your husband and your kids.
But you don’t always feel that way, do you?
There’s a low-level feeling of guilt that creeps into your heart from time to time. Sometimes it bubbles over into tears, usually on lonely, difficult days.
You scan blogs and read books about being a good mom. You find some helpful tidbits here and there, often from women who are grandmothers now. Women you can learn from but who seem to have forgotten the struggle. They seem to have it all together.In your heart, you want to be the kind of mom who trains up kids to make a difference for the kingdom. You know it’s an honor to be entrusted with these kids. You know you’ve only got one shot. You want to be the mom who teaches them the Bible, models how to pray, and trains them up in the fear of the Lord.
But most of the time you feel like you’re barely holding it all together.
Your house cleaning can’t keep up with your kids’ mess-making.
The kids embarrass you by acting up right when your guests arrive.
Your husband doesn’t get just how worn out you are by the end of the day.
You come to the end of your patience. You lose your temper. Then you feel worse.
The last thing you consider yourself to be is a “good mom.” And you think to yourself, It’ll be a miracle if my kids turn out okay.
And – surprisingly – that’s right where God wants to meet you. The place where you admit your powerlessness and your need for Him.
It’s only by God’s grace that any kid grows up to be a force for the kingdom.
You see, there are no perfect kids and no perfect mothers. No matter what you read in blogs, see in magazines, and learn in books. There are sinful kids and sinful moms and dads.
And the only thing greater than both is the grace of God. The God who says “there is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” The God who loves to forgive, to transform, and empower.
God loves you – not because you are a good mother but just because you are His precious child.
God loves you – not because you’ve mastered all the skills of parenting but because He has.
It’s divine grace that will transform your parenting – not guilt.
It’s grace that will keep you going and serving and scrubbing when you’re exhausted and worn out.
It’s grace that will conquer your feelings of inadequacy and remind you of God’s love for you in Christ.
It’s grace that goes for the heart of your kids, not just their behavior.
God has demonstrated the fullness of His love for you through the cross of His Son, even while you were still a sinner.
He has promised you His presence.
He has spoken His approval over you in Christ.
He is the perfect Father who delights in you as a daughter.
Find in Him your Treasure and Joy. Be to others what He is to you.
So walk in freedom. Let Him hold you together when everything seems to be falling apart.
Bask in His unfailing love for you. And rest in His promise of power.
Written by:
The Gospel Coalition Blog

Your job description....


This simply means finding some time during the day to meet with the Lord. It doesn’t have to be before all the kids are awake. It doesn’t have to be in the pre-dawn stillness. Your job is to love God. How you make that happen can look a million different ways and it all depends on you.
Your second job is to love and serve your husband. Husbands are to do the same for their wives, but that’s for a different post. If your husband really likes homemade bread, maybe you could make it for him. But don’t make homemade bread simply because you see other moms posting pictures of their homemade bread on Facebook.
Your calling as mom is to love your kids and teach them to follow the Lord. They don’t need to know Latin by age six. If they do, more power to you. But that’s a bonus, not part of the job description. Your job is simply to love your kids with all your exhausted heart, and to teach them to love Jesus. That’s a high calling. Don’t go throwing in other, extraneous things to make your life more difficult. If you want to teach your kids to sew, great. But don’t be crushed by guilt if your kids aren't making stylish blazers by the age of 10.

Moms, Jesus want you to rest in him. He wants you to chill out. His yoke is easy and his burden is light. Don’t compare yourself to other moms. Don’t try to be something God hasn’t called you to be. If the mom blogs are making you feel guilty, stop reading them. Be faithful to what he has truly called you to do, and know that he is pleased with you. When your kids are resting, don’t feel guilty about watching an episode of “Lost”, or whatever your favorite show may happen to be.
Love God, love your husband, love your kids. Keep it simple and chill out.
If all moms and wives just stick to what they have been called to, there will be less problems in homes and our kids and husbands will listen to the instruction given to them.




Friday, 16 May 2014

ALSO HUSBANDS,....



Your words affect your wife. Bless your wife with your words. She needs your approval. She has given her life to love you and care for you. You will cause terrible problems if you are always finding faults. There are so many women today that live defeated and depressed lives because their husbands refuse to bless them with their mouths. You are speaking death and destruction to your marriage. Instead, tell your wife you love her and appreciate her. O Delbert. My wife knows I love her. I told her when we got married forty years ago. You need to tell her you love her and that she is the best thing that ever happened to you today.

JOKE: An 85-year-old couple, died in a car crash. The wife had kept them in good health by insisting on eating bran muffins and doing exercise. When they got to heaven, St. Peter took them to their mansion which had a beautiful kitchen, Jacuzzi, everything. The man asked how much it would cost. St. Peter said nothing. This was heaven. St. Peter then took them to the back yard where there was a championship-style golf course that changed every week to a different course like on earth. The man asked again how much it would cost. Peter said again that it would cost nothing because this was heaven. Peter then took them to the clubhouse where there was a lavish buffet full of food from all over the earth. The man asked again how much it would cost. Peter said again that it would cost nothing. The man asked where was the low fat and low cholesterol tables. Peter said there were none because in heaven that no one would ever get fat or sick. The man went into a rage, threw his hat down and began jumping on it. He looked at his wife and said, "This is all your fault! If it had not been for your blasted bran muffins and treadmill, I could have been here ten years ago!" That was a joke and we men need to appreciate the fact that she cares.



The opportunity to be the perfect dad

If they get the idea that God is mean and critical and belittling, the child will grow up with a distorted view of God. But if you will display the love and encouragement of God, your child will see God in a healthy way.
So Dads, here you have the perfect opportunity to be the best dad ever to your child.
Some of you have children that are grown and maybe live a distance away. You should pick up the phone and tell them how proud you are of them and how much you love them. You will be amazed how that will add direction to their lives.
‪#‎DontWaste‬ ‪#‎ThisOpportunity‬
God is on YOUR side

CRISPY FISH PUFFS WITH SWEET CHILLI SAUCE

                Spring onions give flavour to these flaked fish and mashed potato puffs served with a tasty sweet chilli sauce.

•             Recipe serves4-6

•             Preparation time25 minutes

•             Cooking time20 minutes

Ingredients

•             3 tbsp Oil, for deep frying

•             1 sachet KNORR Garlic and Herb Potato Bake

•             1 Pinch Robertsons Salt and Pepper to taste

•             2 Eggs

•             30 g Melted margarine

•             5 ml Spring onion, finely chopped

•             180 g Mashed potato

•             250 g Cooked fish

•             200 sweet chilli sauce for dipping

Method

•             Beat eggs thoroughly and flake the fish.

•             Mix all ingredients into the eggs and beat until smooth and fluffy.

•             Heat oil in a deep frying pan.

•             Drop spoonfuls of the mixture into hot oil and fry until golden brown for 2-3 Minutes.

•             Drain on paper towel.

•             Serve with sweet chilli sauce as a dipping sauce.